Tao Sanctuary

Sexology is the scientific study of sexuality. A sexologist is someone who has studied all areas of sex including anatomy, physiology, sexual development, sexual orientation, the dynamics of sexual relationships, as well as the mechanics of sexual contact/acts. A sexologist looks to other disciplines to understand human sexuality such as history, sociology, psychology, biology, gender studies, and more, in order to see how sex works in the context of social, cultural and religious environments.

Sex coaching is a paradigm shift. Sex coaching takes the rich knowledge base of sexology and helps people to create change through a coaching approach. This approach is sex positive, empowering, and whole person centered.

Sexological Bodyworkers are somatic sex educators. Who teach through body experiences designed to nurture, deepen or awaken the sensual self with exercises to empower choice and voice in erotic exchanges. Body-based learning, could include coaching in breath, movement, body awareness, boundary-setting, communication, anatomy, sensate focus, and other body-based teaching about sex in order to discover one's capacity for joy at their own pace. To open to pleasure, and create a space to process shame, fear, and grief if it arises. 

The first session is our opportunity to get to know each other and start building the container that we’ll work in. We’ll explore a few somatic exercises around consent, communication, and boundaries which will help us create our working relationship. It’s important to take the time to establish our connection and create the safety that allows for exploration. While some people want to dive right in immediately, I’ve found that we usually get there faster by slowing down. Once we’ve established our working connection, we can move at the pace that feels right for you. It all comes down to what your situation is and what would be of most service to you, please be sure to tell me about your goals and how I can best help you meet them.

Sex/Intimacy Coaching can help you be more present in your body, experience more pleasure, tune into your authentic sexual desires, and be more embodied during sex. Learning how to state your needs and desires without shame or guilt can make your sexual relationships more passionate, more fulfilling, and far more satisfying.

I work with people of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures. I believe that everyone deserves pleasure and sexual well-being, and I invite you to discover your fullest erotic potential. My most satisfying sessions are with people who are engaged in their personal journey of growth and sexual exploration. They often have some experience exploring their sexuality and are aware of how sex connects with the rest of their lives. Some people have specific questions or concerns they want to look at, while others are curious to discover what comes up as they increase their abilities to build and contain pleasure. All of my clients are adults (at least 18 years old).

I will always respect your privacy and I will not disclose any information about you, including the fact that we are working together. If I need support advice from a colleague in order to best serve you, I will only share the relevant information with them and I will not disclose any identifying information. You are welcome to share anything about your experience with anyone you choose. I encourage you to talk about it with your support network as part of your journey.

When you’re ready, please select the Foundation Ceremony from the Book Online page of the website. I schedule single sessions but most people find that it takes more than one session to get the benefit. I recommend a minimum of 6 sessions for any specific goals.

Sex therapy is pretty much like other kinds of work with a therapist, but the focus is on whatever concerns or questions you have about sexuality. Sex therapists are more trained to work with these issues than most other therapists, but the nature of the experience is similar- you talk with your therapist to work through whatever comes up. The therapist might suggest things to try at home and talk about next time, but experiential learning does not take place during the sessions. Sex surrogacy takes a slightly different approach. A certified surrogate works with a therapist to help clients build their awareness of and skills with physical and emotional intimacy. The surrogate and the therapist develop a plan and series of practices to support the psychotherapeutic goals that will best serve the client. The purpose of sex surrogacy is therapeutic, although of course, learning is a big part of that. Tantra is quite distinct from sex therapy and surrogacy because the intention is to help you learn about your sexuality, rather than on achieving psychotherapeutic goals. It’s the difference between education and therapy. Of course, tantra can support healing around sexual concerns, and many of my clients find that this approach helps them move more quickly through that process. Sex therapy, whether it includes working with a surrogate or not, gives attention to the past in order to help you heal from it. Tantra brings attention to your current sexual situation so that you can build the skills to meet your goals. It’s similar to coaching, because the focus is on getting you from where you are to where you want to be, rather than unpacking how you got here.

It is important to understand that coaching is a professional relationship. While it often may feel like a close personal relationship, it is not one that can extend beyond professional boundaries. When boundaries blur, the benefits gained from the coaching relationship are endangered.

No. Not ever. I like to think of this work as taking a road trip. You’re driving the car and you decide how fast we go and where we’re headed. I’ll make sure we stay on course and offer suggestions for things to explore, but ultimately, you’re the one in charge. That means that I depend on you to be an active participant in this process. At the start of each session, we’ll talk about the goals for our time together and discuss how we’ll work towards them. We’ll only do the work that you actively say yes to, and you can change any part of your yes to a no at any time. If there’s something that you say no to at the beginning, it will be a no for the rest of that session. We sometimes have the impulse to change our minds partway through an experience, and while that can often work out well, it can also lead to regret or discomfort later on. I want to make sure that doesn’t happen, so your no will stay a no for that session. There’s always an opportunity to explore it in the future. Of course, there are also maybes. You might not know how something will feel until we move towards it. Part of making sure that a maybe has become a yes is checking in before proceeding. As an educational process, embodied tantra is most effective when we’re following the ever-changing learning edge. As you develop new skills, your comfort zone expands and we need to stretch in order to keep learning. You are in control of that process and you set the pace.

Scope of Practice Disclaimer ⦁ I meet with clients only during paid session times – I will not meet with my clients outside of paid sessions. ⦁ I will be professional in attitude and conduct, responsible in relations with clients and students, reliable in agreements, and timely in appointment schedules. ⦁ I am conscious and make my student/clients conscious that while we share authentic intimacy, sessions will neither fulfill my, nor the student's/clients' desire for sexual connection. ​ While a session can feel therapeutic, sex/intimacy coaching is not psychotherapy. I am not a physician, psychiatrist, psychologist, licensed social worker, or licensed marriage and family therapist, and I do not offer psychotherapy or medical advice. I work in conjunction with psychotherapists and if you think you need these services, we would be happy to refer you to the appropriate professionals. sex/intimacy coaching is also not a medical treatment. Prospective and current clients who feel that they are physically ill are encouraged to seek medical evaluation from a physician.